Some people talk a lot but don't say much.
That's two hours of my life I'm never getting back.
'Nuff said, for fear I will incriminate myself.
Rant over.
The musings of a middle-aged woman, who conducts humanist and non-religious funerals, weddings, namings, renewal of vows, coming of age.......
3 comments:
Too many party conferences?!
No, I can guess where you're coming from. No ground gained in work time is time grievously and irretrievably wasted. Every sympathy!
Thanks Charles.
I don't mind spending hours hearing about the deceased, about how lovely (or otherwise they are) etc. But a twenty minute conversation, which was basically the run-through of the CV of the person I was speaking to (child of the deceased) with no reference to the dearly departed at all, is not the way I chose to spend my weekends.
Must calm down and go to my happy place...must calm down and go to my happy place...must ca
Yeah, we're in their hands, for better and sometimes for worse. Blood/stones, noisy egos, untruths and half-truths, saintly self-denial, and powerful feelings - like the old News of the World strapline, "all of human life is here." Along with the death.
But if they won't or can't give you what you need, it's bloody difficult. And what about the glowering, sulks and rivalries between sibs?
At least they usually do the dead person's CV quite well. Yet recently, I had people (children of the dp)who: no, not sure when mum and dad married; they probably retired sometime in the 90s, or was it? (I managed not to say "you do know when you were born, do you?") And yet they all seemed to be very close. Nice people, terminally vague.
Then there's "no, don't really know what he did in the war, think he was in the Guards," and just in time I meet grandson, who tells me he knows exactly what the old boy did in the war, he wrote it all down for him, "wasn't in the Guards, was actually a bit of a hero, D-Day 'nall - 'ere d'yer wanna borrow this?" Always best not to fall on the neck of teenage boys with grateful hugs at my age, on hygiene grounds if none other, but he was just lovely.
Hope the happy place did the trick, XP.
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